System vs Goal

Goal: Lose 20 lbs in 10 weeks  (for example)

System: fast 16 hours daily, from 5pm to 9am, no milk on Sun & Tue, exercise moderately for 25min daily.

See the difference? 

Goals are likely to fail, one needs constant motivation, and they are not attached to daily habits

Systems are establishing daily habits or micro-habits that then contribute to the change you are looking for?

So, for myself?

Been working a system the past few years without realizing its a system.

Daily, revise memorized Quran and learn a new portion. Sometimes I don't revise and sometimes I don't learn a new portion, but at the end of the week, usually there is a new page to add to my memory and every portion of my memorized Quran has been looked at at least once. I fail in the hour or the day but I almost never fail the whole week. 

The habit is attached to my well being, to my confidence, to my salaat, to my living and life style, etc. 

But I've failed to lose the last 10lbs of weight for the past few years, despite attaching it to my well being, my Islam, my health and confidence, etc. Why? Its always a goal and I can be good for a week or two but then life happens and I fall off the wagon.

So, when needs to happens is for me to forget the goal and work the system.

That would be no more eating after Asr salaat and no eating before dhuha salaat. Right now, there is usually no eating before at least 1 juz is revised/read. So I can combine the two.

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