Changing My Character to Fit the Quran

  No one really ever told me how demanding being a mother was going to be. No one ever mentioned that being a mother is a job, a life time, 24/7, on call type of job, with no down time, and few tangible rewards. No one bothered to point out that motherhood was the stuff nations were made from, that the “hand that rocks the cradle rules the world” type of thing. I was told to get married because women always marry and to have children because they are the natural consequence of marriage. Marriage was supposed to be a fairy tale with a prince charming and a castle, and kids were supposed to be well behaved unspeaking little people. After accomplishing this goal, I can then return to a life of career woman and part time mothering of children that I don’t know and only care about in so far as they don’t embarrass me or bring my hard earned reputation down. Motherhood was something to do along the path of finding female glory, not a state of being but a chore or duty to accomplish, sort...

Goal: Lose 20 lbs in 10 weeks   (for example) System: fast 16 hours daily , from 5pm to 9am, no milk on Sun & Tue, exercise moderately for 25min daily . See the difference?  Goals are likely to fail, one needs constant motivation, and they are not attached to daily habits Systems are establishing daily habits or micro-habits that then contribute to the change you are looking for? So, for myself? Been working a system the past few years without realizing its a system. Daily, revise memorized Quran and learn a new portion. Sometimes I don't revise and sometimes I don't learn a new portion, but at the end of the week, usually there is a new page to add to my memory and every portion of my memorized Quran has been looked at at least once. I fail in the hour or the day but I almost never fail the whole week.  The habit is attached to my well being, to my confidence, to my salaat , to my living and life style, etc.  But I've failed to lose the last 10lbs of weight fo...

  Making Dua for change necessiates you doing something to bring about that change also. So making dua for a stronger marriage means you also work to strengthen that marriage. Making dua for a healthier body necessiates you making the changes that will bring about that state. Making dua for our oppressed brothers and sisters... what can we do to help alleviate that oppression?  1. strengthen your own iman taqwa tawakkul   2. give to those in need you can reach  3. remind others of 1 and 2 plus the dua  4. take the long term approach so teach others especially the younger generation.... Allah says prepare as much as you can (with the implication that when its time, Allah will use you/your preparation) ( Anfal60 )... Woefully inadequate answer but it is honestly all I know I can do myself and teach others to do. If someone has something better or more, please add in the comment section.